I had just been promoted to a senior job in London and, as a single mum was struggling to deal with my 2 year old, the full-time job and the commute. The master at my tower was not happy with my missing practices and said I could not be a member of the band unless I made them. As a result I started ringing in central London on Sundays and loved it. I wondered if he would have made this demand of a man.